.April 29, 2009 @ 12:11 AM Y
princessangel
It have been so long since........
I miss laogong so muchie!!Is it because of the book which i read recently?
Well well while chat over the phone on my way home, laogong said he said he wanna resign (in office) is just a moment anger. I got alittle pissed cuz he doesnt know wad he wants at all. But, thinking back on the book, i guess he really just said at the spur of moment. Anyways, even though i would prefer him to resign now and find a more stable job for our future & for his own happiness, but at the end of the day its his own decision. No matter what, he confirmed will resigned once his contract end (as what he promised me) so yea.. I shouldnt quarrel with him over this issue...
Some interesting fact from the book MEN Are from MARS, WOMEN Are from VENUS.
The Venusian/Martian Phrase Dictionary
"We never go out" translated in Martain means "I feel like going out and doing something together. We always have such a fun time, and i love being with you. What do you think? Would you take me out to dinner? It has been a few days since we went out."Without this translation, when a woman says "We never go out" a man may hear "You are not doing your job. What a disappointment you have turned out to be. We never do anything together anymore because you are lazy, unromantic, and just boring."=============================================================
"Everyone ignores me" translated into Martian means "Today, I am feeling ignored and unacknowledged. I feel as though nobody see me. Of couse i'm sure some people see me, but they don't seem to care about me. I suppose i am also disappointed that you have been so busy lately. I really do appreciate how hard you are working and sometimes i start to feel like i am not important to you. I am afraid your work is more important than me. Would you give me a hug and tell me how special i am to you?"Without this translation, when a woman says "Everyone ignores me" a man may hear "I am so unhappy. I just can't get the attention i need. Everything is completely hopeless. Even you don't notice me, and you are the person who i suppose to love me. You should be ashamed. You are so unloving. I would never ignore you this way."=============================================================
"I am so tired, I cant do anything" translated into Martian means "I have been doing so much today. I really need a rest before i can do anything more. I am so lucky to have your support. Would you give me a hug and reassure me that i am doing a good job and that i deserve a rest?"Without this translation, when a woman says "I am so tired, I can't do anything" a man may hear "I do everything and you do nothing. You should do more. I can't do it all. I feel so hopeless. I want a 'real man' to live with. Picking you was a big mistake."=============================================================
"I want to forget everything" translated into Martian means "I want you to know that i love my work and my life but today i am so overwhelmed. I would love to do something really nurturing for myself before i have to be responsible again. Would you ask me "What's the matter?" and then listen with empathy without offering any solutions? I just want to feel you understanding the pressures i feel. It would make me feel so much better. It helps me to relax. Tomorrow i will get back to being responsible and handling things."Without this translation, when a woman says "I want to forget everything" a man may hear "I have to do so much that i don't want to do. I am so unhappy with you and our relationship. I want a better partner who can make my life more fulfilling. You are doing a terrible job."=============================================================
"This house is always a mess" translated into Martian means "Today i feel like relaxing, but the house is so messy. I am frustrated and i need a rest. I hope you don;t expect me to clean it all up. Would you agree with me that it is a mess and then offer to help clean up part of it?"Without this translation, when a woman says "This house is always a mess" a man may hear "This house is a mess because of you. I do everything possible to clean it up, and before i have finished, you have messed it up again. You are a lazy slob and i don't want to live with you unless you change. Clean up or clear out!"=============================================================
"No one listens to me anymore" translated into Martian means "I am afraid i am boring to you. I am afraid you are no longer interested in me. I seem to be very sensitive today. Would you give me some special attention? I would love it. I've had a hard day and feel as though no one wants to hear what i have to say. Would you listen to me and continue to ask me supportive questions such as: 'What happened today? What else happened? How did you feel? What did you want? How else do you feel?' Also support me by saying caring, acknowledging, and reassuring statements such as: 'Tell me more' or 'That's right' or 'I know what you mean' or 'I understand.' Or just listen, and occasionally when i pause make one of these reasuring sounds: 'oh', 'humph', 'uh-huh,' and 'hmmm.'" (Note: Martians had never heard of these sounds before arriving on Venus.Without this translation, when a woman says "No one listens to me anymore" he may hear "I give you my attention but you don't listen to me. You used to. You have become a very boring person to be with. I want someone exciting and interesting and you are definitely not that person. You have disappointed me. You are selfish, uncaring, and bad."=============================================================
"Nothing is working" translated into Martian means "Today i am so overwhelmed and i am so grateful that i can share my feelins with you. It helps me so much to feel better. Today it seems like nothing i do works. I know that this is not true, but i sure i feel that way when i get so overwhelmed by all the things i still have to do. Would you give me a hug and tell me that i am doing a great job. It would sure feel good."Without this translation, when a woman says "Nothing is working" a man may hear "You never do anything right. I can't trust you. If i haven't listened to you i wouldn't be in this mess. Anothing man would have fixed things, but you made them worst."=============================================================
"You don't love me anymore" translated into Martian means "Today i am feeling as though you don't love me. I am afraid i have pushed you away. I know you really do love me, you do so much for me. Today i am just feeling a little insecure. Would you reassure me of your love and tell me those three magic words, i love you. When you do that it feels so good."Without this translation, when a woman says "You don't love me anymore" a man may hear "I have given you the best years of my life, and you have given me nothing. You used me. You are selfish and cold. You do what you want to do for you and only you. You do not care about anybody. I was a food for loving you. Now i have nothing."=============================================================
"You are always in a hurry" translated into Martian means "I feel so rushed today. I don't like rushing. I wish our life was not so hurried. I know it is nobody's fault and i certainly don't blame you. I know you are doing your best to get us there on time and i really appreciate how much you care. "Would you empathize with me and say soemthing like, 'It is hard always rushing around. I don't always like rushing either.'"Without this translation, when a woman says "We are always in a hurry" a man may hear "You are so irresponsible. You wait until the last minute to do everything. I can never be happy when i am with you. We are always rushing to avoid being late. You ruin things every time i am with you. I am so much happier when i am not around you." =============================================================
"I want more romance" translated into Martian means "Sweetheart, you have been working so hard lately. Let's take some time out for ourselves. I love it when we can relax and be alone without the kids around and no work pressures. You are so romantic. Would you surprise me with flowers sometime soon and take me out on a date? I love being romanced."Without this translation, when a woman says "I want more romance" a man may hear "You don't satify me anymore. I am not turned on to you. Your romantic skills are definitely inadequate. You have never really fulfilled me. I wish you were more like other men i have been with."Hmmm, i finish typing & highlighting & bolding in 45mins time. Sad, my typing skill definitely gotten worst.
Cant wait to hug laogong tomorrow. And yea i packed partial of my bag, i really wonder how am i going to drag it to work tml.. T.T